By Lawrencia Amfo-Asiedu
Finally, he got down on one knee and proposed. You instantly got into planning mode and all those years of screenshotting your favorite wedding images on Black Bride is now a reality. You're even surprised to find your inner bridezilla emerge.
Fast forward to a year later, the dream wedding venue has been picked, your bridal party's dazzling outfits selected, your dress has arrived and you have managed to pick the best wedding planner in town. Then suddenly, wedding nerves start to get the better of you. You are soon inundated with thoughts such as, "Will everything go ok? Have I dropped enough pounds for my fantasy dress to fit perfectly? Will my great aunt and grandmother who detest each other be happy to sit at the same table?"
It's easy for your negative thoughts to run wild. Getting married is an amazing event that changes your life. It is not just about the surname change. It is a decision where most of us choose to make once in a lifetime. It can take some getting used to, but the journey is exciting and can be eye-opening. Even when it's not as easy as we wish it to be. From Miss to Mrs, here are a few tips to help you transition into your new role as a wife.
Spend Quality Time Together
During the planning process, there's a high possibility that you may not have the opportunity to spend a lot of valuable time with your significant other without discussing concerns about the wedding. Whether you are discussing the budget or table seating plans, wedding talk can become repetitive. Take time out to enjoy those final moments before you become husband and wife. It's ok to put wedding talk on halt so you can participate in fun activities and have a day out before the big day.
Understand What It Means To Be A Wife
If you grew up in the church as a young woman, you were most likely taught the importance of being a Proverbs 31 wife. Submissiveness and humility were just a few of the pivotal traits that were said to make an ideal wife. Being a wife means more than taking his last name or wearing that jaw-dropping Oscar de la Renta gown down the aisle. You'll need to learn how you can be the ideal wife for your husband along with your needs. Speaking to trusted family members and friends, seeking the church and reading support blogs often help with this transition.
Be Prepared To Share
Did you think you were only going to share the bedroom? Not exactly! Get prepared to share everything. And when I say everything, I mean everything. From a joint bank accounts to your dreams, strengths and weaknesses. It is not just about you anymore. With just a little effort, you both will become a fully-fledged team.
His Family Becomes Yours
Whether you like it or not! This is especially true in various African cultures and their many traditions. You are not just marrying the guy. You are marrying the whole package and even the entire village sometimes! This is why it's important to spend time developing a bond with his family members. Find out his mother's favorite food and find out how she makes your husband-to-be's ideal dish. Actions like these create a tight knit bond with the family.
Create A Safe-Haven
You should strive to make your married home a safe-haven for your husband-to-be. Find out what will make him excited to rush home to you from work. Spend time and concentrate on what would make him happy and continue to emulate that as your marriage goes on.
Learn To Serve
Learning to serve your husband-to-be is essential as a homemaker. A wife should strive to be a blessing to her husband as well as a good steward for the marriage. Learn to listen to him and find out his likes and dislikes. Learn to be patient, understanding, and aim to be wise. The list is endless. Serving is an important virtue because at times we must serve to get to where we want.
What advice were you offered about wifehood before getting married? Feel free to share your best tips or stories in the comments below!