I’m so glad you decided to join me for Scene 5 of my “Journey to the Aisle” series. Psychology states women are natural nurturers. Nurturers typically focus on the needs of others and can sometimes suppress their desires to be sure others wishes are fulfilled. If no one has informed you, during your wedding planning journey you have full permission to make the process solely about you and your fiance. This is a day for those who love you most to witness the union between two people who have found true love. As I've stated in previous scenes of this blog series, “your day, your way”.
Trying to please everyone is impossible, give up on the task now to save yourself heartache and frustration. Focus on elements that are important to you to be shared with your loved ones on your special day. Allow your personalities to shine as a couple and for others to witness the moment. Attempting to be a people pleaser will likely leave you with regret for not pleasing yourself and your fiance on your wedding day.
While planning for the aisle you will receive several opinions, advice, and requests from your love ones. Some information may be shared with the intent of making your day better, some may be shared with their own needs in mind. Your wedding day should be joyous and a representation of you and your fiance. You can't enjoy the celebration trying to care for the individual needs of your entire guest list.
I feel honored when I receive a wedding invitation. Honored to know the couple felt in their heart that I’m worthy of witnessing their sacred union.This should be the spirit of your guests. If this isn’t the ethos of their intent, rethink your guest list. Yes, rethink if you should drop the invitation in the mail with their name on it. I’m a Southern girl so hospitality is important to me. I love to see people happy and my intentions are to have all of my guests smiling. I have to remember I can’t control others happiness, I can only control my intent. As you attempt to accommodate others, they should try to do the same for your special day.
See you in two weeks; same time, same day.
Planner Tip: You can be overly hospitable and accommodating in some areas of wedding planning, but be selective. Make a SHORT list of those who are dearest to you as a couple; maybe parents, bridal attendants, and your favorite Aunt. Obliging to 10 people is much easier than 150.
Photo Credit: Michelle Davina Photography
Ashley Miller is an Atlanta-based Wedding Planner. Her desire to share her personal wedding planning journey and the realness about the combination of life & planning a wedding led her to Black Bride. Ashley is a true Peach, born and raised in Georgia. She experiences true joy when assisting her wedding clients through the unknown of the wedding world. Keep up with Ashley at BlushEventCompBlog or on IG @BlushEventComp
