 1. What you see: The couple that equally shares’s the chores
Not so fast: If it is really annoying to you that your friend's hubby seems happy to scrub the kitchen after making a delicious meal, then it's obvious that your hubby isn't. But have you ever considered your approach? Nagging, complaining and comparing him won't ever work. Do yourself a favor; do not stress yourself out with erratic behavior. Instead, thank him for taking care of the laundry and perhaps swap chores. Let something that he didn't do go, and give him praise where it's due. Also, don't blow your top if he does a chore differently than you would or if he leaves his clothes on the floor. Chances are he'll be more willing to help around the house if you stop nagging and cracking the whip.
2. What you see: The honey, baby, sweetie couple that seems to never fight — not ever?
Not so fast: Fighting really is not always a bad thing, as long as you are not violent or nasty towards each other. A good fight when fought fairly can yield great results that you can both benefit from. In fact, research shows that some couples are often energized by healthy verbal arguments. If your friend says that her and her husband never fight, don’t worry an argument is on the way, or perhaps she's not being honest with you. Maybe she is a private person or wants to impress you or even make you jealous. |
